Some have summer romances. Maggie Lamond Simone has school-year “crushes” instead. Here, she explains in “The End of the September-May Romance…”
“For the past five years of preschool (between two late-year children), I have unfailingly become friends with–and sometimes, close friends with–many of you other moms dropping off your kids. It’s easy to see how this could happen. How could we not? Every day, twice a day, for months on end, we stand there in a small space together waiting to drop off and pick up. I defy any mom to go a month, let alone an entire school year, without ‘falling in like’ with one of the other moms. I’m telling you, it can’t be done. (And Kim, don’t you shake your head out there. Sure, you were a tough nut to crack, but you know by the end of the year you found me irresistible.) So we become friends, and our kids become friends. (We let them think they did the choosing–it’s kind of a mommy secret.) We have playdates, during which we moms have coffee and bagels and cinnamon rolls and talk about life and love and childcare issues while our children busily do whatever it is they do on playdates. (Frankly, we don’t care. As long as we hear no crashes followed by screams of pain, we figure they’re good.) Those playdates eventually transform into dinner dates or ladies’ nights. We enjoy each other’s company for the togetherness, the validation, the support, the sharing, and the simple ease of conversation we wished we got from our men. Ha ha ha…kidding. Sort of. And then the school year ends. The kids promise to see each other over the summer, to go swimming and to the park, and maybe to hit the zoo together a couple times. And it may even happen. But we, being adults, realize the truth for what it is. We’re breaking up…”
MAGGIE LAMOND SIMONE is an award-winning columnist and author. Her humor and observational essays have appeared for six years in Family Times, an award-winning monthly parenting magazine in Syracuse, New York, and The Advertiser, a weekly newspaper in East Aurora, New York. Her essays have appeared in Cosmopolitan, and are included in Chicken Soup for the Soul: My Resolution, Chicken Soup for the New Mom’s Soul, Chicken Soup for the Soul in Menopause, Misadventures of Moms and Disasters of Dads, and Hello, Goodbye. Her first children’s picture book, Sophie’s Sounds, was released in May 2007, and she is awaiting the release of two more picture books, Losing Decker and Timmy and the Timepiece. She’s won multiple awards through Parenting Publications of America. She is a member of the Society of Children’s Book Writers and Illustrators and the New York Press Association, and she is also an adjunct instructor of English at Bryant & Stratton College in Clay, New York. She earned a bachelor’s degree from Hobart and William Smith colleges and a master’s degree from the S.I. Newhouse School of Communications, at Syracuse University. Simone lives in central New York with her husband and two children.
Read the rest of Maggie’s letter, and 35 others, in P.S. What I Didn’t Say: Unsent Letters to Our Female Friends, now available on Amazon and in bookstores nationwide!