As Robin Troy eloquently writes in “Two Generations of Non-Girly Girls,” spanning a 50-year age gap is easy when you have a friend like Evaun…
“…back here in Connecticut, I still get a kick out of telling people how we met–that if I hadn’t moved to Montana from New York, hadn’t become a reporter, hadn’t been assigned a Christmas article about a seventy-four-year man in your seniors bowling league who had been dressing up as Santa and flying in a helicopter to remote towns for thirty-plus years, hadn’t accepted his offer to join all of you for dinner one night after bowling, hadn’t watched you telling your bawdy jokes and drinking your scotch and poking the sides of the handsome men at the table, hadn’t stayed late to have margaritas with you, we wouldn’t have become friends. And yet, our hitting it off was a lot simpler than that. The truth is we became friends because we have something in common (besides our birthday): Neither of us is a girly-girl. We aren’t into hanging out with packs of women. We like to get ready for a party, and go to the bathroom, by ourselves. We like the casual company of men; we’re good at being friends with men, though we call them boys. And we prefer scotch to cosmos. Margaritas are as foofy as our drinks get…”
ROBIN TROY is a professor of fiction writing and director of the MFA program in creative writing at Southern Connecticut State University. She is the author of the novel Floating, as well as a forthcoming novel, Liberty Lanes. She received her MFA from the University of Montana in Missoula, where she was also a staff writer for the Missoula Independent newspaper. She lives in New Haven, Connecticut, with her husband, daughter, pound dog, and two turtles–and only wishes there were fewer miles between her and her spectacular friend Evaun so that she would never again miss another co-birthday celebration, afternoon at Harold’s, drive to Browns Lake, or wing-dingy with the whole gang (the Wild Ones) at the bowling alley.
Read more of Robin’s letter, and 35 others, in P.S. What I Didn’t Say: Unsent Letters to Our Female Friends, now available on Amazon!