Do you have a Best Toxic-Shock Thinking Friend? Anna Cox does, as she eloquently and hilariously (is that a word? You know what I mean) writes about in P.S. What I Didn’t Say: Unsent Letters to Our Female Friends.
In her laugh-out-loud yet poignant letter “Not Sometimes, But Always“, Anna pens the following to her pal Lara:
“Most women are lucky enough to have a BFF (Best Friend Forever) but very few are lucky enough to have a BTSTF (Best Toxic Shock Thinking Friend). The BTSTF is the woman that magically appears at a particularly low or humiliating point in your life. She shows you that your particular brand of crazy is neither all that crazy nor all that particular. When you feel like you’re the only freak in the room, she stands by your side—once a lone freak, now freak army. Who knows why we connect with some people and not with others. Sometimes you get lucky and click with someone right away. Sometimes it takes a weird combination of painkillers, elastic waist pants and the loss of something so fundamental you feel like you’ve lost yourself. That is where our friendship began. With loss. ”
Read more of Anna’s letter, and 35 other letters to our female friends, when P.S. What I Didn’t Say comes out Oct. 1!
ANNA COX is an assistant professor and director of the photography program at Longwood University in Farmville, Virginia. Her writing has been published in the Chronicle of Higher Education. www.ladyprofessor.com